Pregnancy can be a beautiful and life-changing experience, but there are also things about it that totally suck. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
While most people know the basics of pregnancy, such as not eating fish or taking prenatal vitamins, only women who’ve been through it can speak to the monumental physical and mental changes that happen over the duration of nine long months.
The subject of postpartum depression is sadly still seen as being taboo, which is pretty ironic considering that one in 10 women are affected. The cold, hard truth is that having a baby isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.
After giving birth to her second son, Alexandra Kilmurray found herself thrown right back into the postpartum depression she’d experienced with the first. Since they were born just a year apart, she struggled nearly nonstop for 18 months.
With the goal of inspiring other moms, as well as showing the “dark side” of pregnancy that’s rarely discussed in mainstream culture, Kilmurray shared this photo to her Instagram. While some wanted to know why she would post something so unflattering, she had a great reason.
Well, I know a lot of you guys are thinking, ‘Why would she post this picture,’ but it took me 18 months to get here. 18 months to not cry when I look in the mirror. 18 months to finally feel beautiful in my own skin again.
No one warns you about the dark sides of motherhood and pregnancy…No one gives you a heads up on how much you change physically and mentally after you become a mother. It’s been a long and hard postpartum ride for me…18 months after my first son and five months after my second son, I feel like I can finally see the light, and it genuinely feels amazing.
Cheers to you mamas who are battling postpartum depression and still getting up every day for your children! Cheers to you mamas who still cry about the marks on your skin from birthing your perfect babies. Cheers to knowing that this too shall pass! And things will get better.
Kilmurray’s right — at the end of the day, the joy of raising kids is worth all kinds of pain and tribulations for many women who dream of being moms. If it wasn’t, we would have stopped having kids a long time ago! That said, it’s inspiring to see a mom who’s not afraid to talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to motherhood.
If you’re struggling with postpartum depression, click here to find information and resources, or call 1-800-944-4773.